Borrow the Sugar!

Carolla

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Borrowing from neighbours - it strengthens society! Our WC friend Birthstone sent me this graphic article - pretty interesting. This Is How Borrowing Things From Our Neighbors Strengthens Society

Being 'neighbourly' is so much less common these days, at least that's my general perception in urban centres. On my street, we do work at maintaining neighbourly contact - and it enhances our life together in so many ways. What's your neighbourhood like? As John McKnight asks - are you a neighbour or a resident?

When's the last time you borrowed or loaned something? How did that go?
 

Mendalla

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We get on well with all our neighbours. Don't borrow often, but occasionally. Watch each other's places when we are away, help each other when needed (e.g. my neighbour will bring his chainsaw over if I need it to fell a tree or something). So I'd say we're neighbours. The lady across the street is moving soon, so we'll see how that change affects the dynamic.
 

ChemGal

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My parent's neighbours I'm pretty close to a few of them. I popped next door to grab an extra housekey when Chemguy's Mom died and my parents were still out dealing with their parents. She talked to me a bit, then I got texts from the other 'neighbour' (their house faces another direction) seeing if I needed anything, making sure I didn't need her key to the house, etc.

I don't know my current neighbours as well as I would like to. When we moved in it was owners on either side, now it is renters on both sides and there has been a fair bit of turnover. One side, I've gotten to know them well enough, this will be their 3rd summer I think. The other side they have been around for less than a year and winter isn't a good time to get to know people. I've also gotten to know those directly across from us, also here for less than a year, we actually spoke on FB first and I went over and chatted for a while on Halloween. I also know someone down the street.
Hairdresser and personal trainer are in the neighbourhood, massage therapist is in the same community league, and is a neighbourhood over. I have walked to her house, but it is a little bit of a walk. I know some others as well, although not really friends. There is one person where I've gotten stuff from a free sight and have bought things from multiple times. I'm pretty certain if we had kids I would know more people and have deeper relationships - almost everyone here has kids and many activities revolve around that.

The whole borrowing and lending thing though? Not really into it, I know that my Mom has been annoyed with the neighbours a few times even though they are close - it can be a bit like family that way. The occasional bit of flour or something is one thing - but really it's not something people tend to run out of.

Despite not knowing the one side, we do have kids running into our backyard often enough from both sides - balls going over the fence. They would ring the doorbell (I've never answered) and they were just told they are welcome to go and get them, although currently our gate is open, once it's closed (keep the rabbits out of the garden) they may have difficulties opening it.

I have been one just to show up to parties after invites have gone up on FB groups. One person usually holds a Christmas shopping party - mostly MLMs although she has her own business a few others do too. Another person used to do regular healthy based food events - salad parties, protein balls, soups, etc. It's was a way of her growing her MLM although not directly connected (but the protein balls were moreso - protein powder). Sadly she moved, those were good but I don't really have the energy to be hosting something like that myself.
So I would be the weirdo who would come to these things not knowing anyone beforehand although I at least have the 'out' of needing to message the host first to find out about cats, so we have had communication first other than me just checking a box saying I'm coming.
 
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I really miss my neighbour next door. She was the Mom of the woman who owns the house. She and I got along like a house on fire, I took her to Wednesday morning bible study, then often for her groceries afterwards. In return, I spent many summer hours drifting around their pool on a noodle discussing theology... Unfortunately, daughter decided that Mom was cramping her style, and more or less kicked her out. She's found herself a nice place, but I miss her regular company. Fortunately, we found someone in the bible study who doesn't have to go very far out of her way to pick her up, so I still see her Wednesday mornings, but it's just not the same as a 'neighbour'. Also, we used to share things like heads of celery, etc., the sorta stuff that a single person can't get through.

I can't have an accessible back yard; Lucy is too unpredictable, and NOT good with children. She discovered a weakness in the fence last week, wiggled out, and proceeded to run into a neighbour's backyard, and on the way out, terrify the kids next door. Just by barking at them, but she's kinda large. Fortunately, I had pre-bribed the kids to like me by buying their fundraising chocolates, and picking up bubble wands for them, so we're still cool. And the fence is bungee-corded, lol.
 

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I'm quite happy to borrow & lend. At the moment, a friend & neighbour from the next street over, loaned us her waffle maker while she is away. Another neighbour is a garage sale aficionado so I asked her keep an eye out for one for us - which showed up on our porch today :) Gonna need some cleaning, but that's okay.

Last week our neighbour across the street - terrific younger couple with 3 fantastic kids - arrived at my door with a little bowl of black olive tapenade that she had made. She remembered that my husband loved it at our last neighbourhood party & she had made a large batch for a party & so deliveredd some for him :) So sweet. Her young dtr loves to come over & garden with me - we have the most fascinating chats!!

Our next door neighbour is organizing with another neighbour who has a trailer to pick up a load of worm castings for our gardens - maybe this week & greatly appreciated!

I think maybe the 'cup of sugar' type of borrowing is less common now than when my mother was a stay-at-home mom without a car - as were most of our neighbours. They literally couldn't run out to the store - and stores were not open in the evenings. So I think the women shared back and forth more then. I recall she shopped only every two weeks; the breadman & milkman would deliver to the house a few times a week.
I rather liked in the graphic novel the comment of the woman borrowing the sugar commenting on 'stopping runaway climate change' - ie not making a lot of extra trips in the car to pick up items. We have to think more about that aspect of our behaviours.
 

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I do borrow something now and then and also loan things. My neighbour down the street will cat sit for me, in return she is loaning out my lawn spreader and I share my garden plants. The neighbours next door are 88 and I often clear their driveway. They can tell a lot of stories of NS in 1942. We went out for supper yesterday. I also get their mail from the mailbox. After seeler cat sat last year , they were a bit disappointed that she isn’t coming back this year, but I promised them @Carolla .
The other neighbour across the street has my house-key for just in case, because she is mostly home, taking care of her brother. I have been borrowing eggs from her. To my right is a friend of Junior and his partner and we have been teaming up to clear the 88 year olds drive way in heavy snow before. They also cat sat for me one long weekend and in return got a couple of patio blocks from me to make theirs larger.
 

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Borrowing ........ do some folks do this with intentions of not paying it forward? It appears as a grace ... a given take? Thus the Romans proceed ...
 
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