Anthony Bourdain, RIP

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Mendalla

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I used to watch Anthony Bourdain when I had more than a basic cable package. He had several shows on various cable channels over the years but the format remained roughly the same. His latest series was on CNN and called Parts Unknown.

The key thing about Bourdain, a trained chef, was that he wasn't creating travel shows but travelogues. He wasn't showing you the 10 top things to do in the places he visited, he was exploring the city and culture he was visiting and taking you along for the ride. As a chef, he did make food a focus but he wasn't doing the gourmet thing, showing off the fancy places. He could be just as happy and enthusiastic eating street food in Shanghai as eating gourmet food in New York or Paris. IOW, he was a foodie, not a gourmet. And as he ate, he talked to chefs, restaurant owners, local journalists, and such about the city he was visiting; the culture, the politics, the social life. As such, it was much informative and educational than a traditional travel show.

Anthony Bourdain has made his final trip. He was found dead, apparently a suicide, in his hotel room in Paris last night. He was 61, younger than I thought. May his final journey to parts unknown be as interesting as all the others.
 

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He was a big favourite in our household and it was truly sad to wake up to this news today. Loved to watch his shows - you've described them well Mendalla. He had a relentless curiosity about all things and tread where others may have tiptoed around issues. He had an interesting life, with forays into drug addiction much earlier on, but got himself clean & seemed to have a pretty stable life at present - loving his child & family. He will surely be missed, all around the world.
 

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I was more affected by this guy's death than the outcome of the ontario election. I saw him as a kind of ethnographer....going deep into a culture to explore so much more than food.
Weird...just last weekend a friend and I were yakking about what a great life would look like -- who we envied -- and his was the first name that came to mind....adventure, travel, interesting food. That guy would eat anything!
Who knows what demons haunt us.
 

Mendalla

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Hadn't realized he was in a relationship with Asia Argento. She's an Italian actress who isn't that well known in the mainstream, but has been kicking around Italian and horror movie circles for years. She has also done some writing and directing, which is a bit of a family business. Her father is legendary Italian horror director/writer/producer Dario Argento. She's one of Harvey Weinstein's accusers and Bourdain got involved in #MeToo because of her.

Asia Argento Breaks Silence About Boyfriend Anthony Bourdain's Death: 'He Was My Love, My Rock'
 

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The 61-year-old was found dead in his hotel room in Strasbourg, France, where he was filming an episode of his CNN program “Parts Unknown.” During one episode, he traveled to Gaza. In 2014, he won an award from the Muslim Public Affairs Council. In his acceptance speech, he said ...
“The world has visited many terrible things on the Palestinian people,
none more shameful than robbing them of their basic humanity.”
 
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Very sad. I didn’t watch him much, but the little I did, I really enjoyed. My mom likes him. She’ll probably be quite sad.
 
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I just read that he has an 11 yr old daughter. That’s a really rough age to lose ones parent - especially this way. I wonder why he couldn’t call for help, for her sake.
 

Mendalla

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That's always the question, isn't it? And the answer is, we don't know because we aren't him. That's the overriding message I am hearing from mental health advocates, too. This isn't about blaming him, it's about recognizing that in that moment, this was what he saw as right. It was his illness, not some failure or "sin". Compassion is the answer, for both him and those he left.
 
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Well, to be honest I am both saddened and pissed off. It was kind of selfish. He had so much going for him and so much to give the world.

I think people should be able to express that they feel angry when people kill themselves.
 

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If that's what you feel, express it. But be prepared for some negative reaction if you put it out in the public sphere, as Val Kilmer found out. Read the responses to Kilmer they show.

Val Kilmer Sparks Outrage After Calling Anthony Bourdain’s Suicide ‘Selfish’
lol
*facepalm*
love this new world we're living in
where a Facebook post is news
and some people being outraged is Sparks Outrage
but yeah
new world
24 7 news
everyone watching
having an opinion
and corporate media pumping up Outrage Culture
lol
what a strange world we're living in
where 1 sentence can destroy peoplez living
 

Jae

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Compassion is key. I didn't watch him much but when I did I certainly enjoyed doing so. May he rest in peace. I pray that the God of Comfort will be with his family, friends and fans.
 
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I had suicide in my family that changed at least one person’s life negatively, and as much as I loved the person who died and still do...you can’t just feel empathy for the person who died too soon (by choice), for what they must’ve been feeling... the people left behind have to live with a range of emotions (see stages of grief, but the anger might be more acute if it was a choice). And especially his young daughter. Her life is forever changed.

Why didn’t he seek help? Did anyone see him before it happened? I wonder.
 
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If that's what you feel, express it. But be prepared for some negative reaction if you put it out in the public sphere, as Val Kilmer found out. Read the responses to Kilmer they show.

Val Kilmer Sparks Outrage After Calling Anthony Bourdain’s Suicide ‘Selfish’
I actually think Val Kilmer’s post was poignant. He obviously knew Bourdain and he obviously feels angry, and sad. The outrage at Val is useless - just a scapegoat for their own anger that they’re not allowed to express or direct properly.
 

Mendalla

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There are stages to grief and anger is one of them, whether it's a suicide or not.
But can the anger not be expressed at the disease or the circumstances rather than the person.

Why didn’t he seek help?
Read all the reactions to Kilmer. One is from someone who attempted suicide. He makes it clear that in that moment, in the grip of that illness, he believed it was the best thing for him and for his loved ones. A person who has gone so low that they take their own life even though they are physically healthy and have a successful life likely isn't seeing things the way you are from your position. They don't think they need help, they think this is the solution. If they survive, they may understand differently, but that's not how they are thinking in the moment.
 

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And that's why it is important for those around them to recognize the situation and need for help. Because they may not.
 

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But can the anger not be expressed at the disease or the circumstances rather than the person.
Well I think grief is personal and when expressed, it may seem inappropriate to those on the periphery. I think we tend to think we have more invested than we do just by knowing about a celebrity rather than really knowing them but I still think we experience some form of grief.
 
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