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In a thread in Family Life, @revjohn wrote a nice discourse on the Bible and adultery which included the following (and I'm quoting John for discussion, not suggesting he believes or advocates this. He can chime in with his own understanding if he wishes.):
So, if I read this right, if Janet loses her virginity to Bob when she is eighteen (never married, just kids fooling around), then they break up and she marries George when she is 22, she is an adulterer? And so is George even though Janet is his first?
If I read that right, this definition makes me and a host of other people that I know adulterers in a Biblical sense and it strikes me as altogether too broad to be useful unless you are a Bible thumping control freak.
However, I don't think I have ever thought of it that way in spite of a nominally Christian upbringing nor do I think most people do. The generally accepted societal definition/understanding of adultery seems to me to be "engaging in sexual or romantic relations with someone while in a committed sexual/romantic relationship with someone else".
So, by this definition, if Janet marries Bob at eighteen, then starts up a relationship with George when she is 22 and still married to Bob, she is an adulterer as is George (though I would go the extra step and say that he can't be guilty of adultery if he doesn't know so it depends). That I can get. Still probably makes for an awful lot of adulterers but a lot fewer than the Biblical definition.
So, how do you folks define/understand "adultery"? Biblically? By the more restrictive social definition? Something else?
Are open relationships and swinging adultery or does the fact that the partners know of and and consent to the activities in these situations move those activities out of that realm?
Is it even that big a big deal anymore? I know I tend to shrug and go "Que sera" when yet another adultery scandal erupts in politics or some celebrity gets caught with their pants/skirt down.
Talk it up but keep it respectful, eh.
Biblically speaking everyone is celibate until marriage. Biblically speaking marriage is the act of cleaving one to another which is why early, biblical punishments for raping virgins was to be married to them or, if that was not an option, paying the brideprice and assuming that the damaged goods would never be married to anyone ever.
Biblically speaking anyone who is not with whomever they lost their virginity to is guilty of adultery. And if you lose your virginity to someone who lost their virginity to someone else and is not a widow you have, biblically speaking, committed adultery.
So, if I read this right, if Janet loses her virginity to Bob when she is eighteen (never married, just kids fooling around), then they break up and she marries George when she is 22, she is an adulterer? And so is George even though Janet is his first?
If I read that right, this definition makes me and a host of other people that I know adulterers in a Biblical sense and it strikes me as altogether too broad to be useful unless you are a Bible thumping control freak.
However, I don't think I have ever thought of it that way in spite of a nominally Christian upbringing nor do I think most people do. The generally accepted societal definition/understanding of adultery seems to me to be "engaging in sexual or romantic relations with someone while in a committed sexual/romantic relationship with someone else".
So, by this definition, if Janet marries Bob at eighteen, then starts up a relationship with George when she is 22 and still married to Bob, she is an adulterer as is George (though I would go the extra step and say that he can't be guilty of adultery if he doesn't know so it depends). That I can get. Still probably makes for an awful lot of adulterers but a lot fewer than the Biblical definition.
So, how do you folks define/understand "adultery"? Biblically? By the more restrictive social definition? Something else?
Are open relationships and swinging adultery or does the fact that the partners know of and and consent to the activities in these situations move those activities out of that realm?
Is it even that big a big deal anymore? I know I tend to shrug and go "Que sera" when yet another adultery scandal erupts in politics or some celebrity gets caught with their pants/skirt down.
Talk it up but keep it respectful, eh.